10 Things Smart People Do When They Dont Like Someone

10 Things Smart People Do When They Dont Like Someone Youre going to come across a number of different people in your life, especially if youre working full time. The thing about people you meet through work is that you cant choose whether or bedrngnis you spend your time with them often, youll even have to collaborate and work directly with them. But just because you dont click doesnt necessarily mean that you cant have a strong working relationship. You just need to find the best ways to deal with the people with whom you dont get along. After all, the more you can work with people with whom you disagree, the more youll grow as a rolle and develop as a strong employee.That said, according to Bravely, 70 percent of employees avoid initiating difficult conversations with their boss and colleagues. In fact, 53 percent of employees choose to ignore workplace problems rather than work to solve them, and only 31 percent of managers believe they address workplace confrontations well.Her e are 10 expert tipsto help you survive any situation with dignity.1. Accept That You Cant Please EveryoneAs the saying goes, you cant please everyone. Its the truth and,in a blog post on Psychology Today, Dr. Susan Krauss says that you and the other displeased person probably just arent a good fit. It may have to do with your different behavioral styles. Regardless, dont sweat it. So long as how youre behaving is bro appropriate, and you maintain professionalism at all times, keep on keeping on.2. Look on the Bright SideIn the same post, Dr. Krauss suggests that you try and look at how people are acting differently, and try to give them the benefit of the doubt. Maybe this other person doesnt have any ill will toward you and isnt trying to tick you off, sabotage youor anything else. Maybe theyre having an off day or something slipped or theyre overwhelmed or they didnt get much sleep.3. Try to Empathize with ThemIn another post on Psychology Today, Dr.Marianna Pogosyan suggests th at you work to understand the person with whom you dont get along. Empathy, she says, is key. Empathy reduces the distance between us and others, and facilitates social connectedness and coherence, she writes. As a measure of emotional intelligence, it is an ingredient that makes for better leaders, physicians, and conversation partners. Empathy fosters emotional bonding between parents and infants, between partners and friends, and between members of society as a whole.4. Be MindfulIts critical to maintain self-awareness in a disagreement with another person, especially a coworker in a professioal setting. Remember that Eleanor Roosevelts famous quote No one can make you feel unten liegend without your consent. Recognize your feelings of aggravation or anger or whatever emotion is running through your body, but dont attach to those feelings or theyll consume you acknowlege them and let them go.5. Dont Take it PersonallyIn apost on LinkedIn, president of TalentSmart Dr. Travis Brad berry says to think of it this way If a person were smoking, would you sit there all afternoon inhaling the second-hand smoke? No. Youd distance yourself, and you should do the same with complainers. If a person is driving you crazy, dont take it personally you can remove yourself from the situation.6. Stay CalmAs the saying goes, keep calm and carry on.Try to be the voice of reason, recommends Victor Lipman in a post on Psychology Today. If you cultivate the ability to stay calm and look for reasonable constructive solutions at these momentslets figure out a quick fix for that PowerPoint, lets examine the broader competitive sales environment, etc.youll find yourself respected for it. You may even gain a reputation as a go-to person in such situations, which is not at all a bad reputation to have in the business world.7. Be Clear on Your AgendaIts important to understand what your ideal outcome would be in an argumentative situation so that you can communicate it clearly.Communicat ing is often hard work, writesDr. Philip J. Rosenbaum of Psychology Today. It requires a willingness to think about what we are saying and, equally importantly, how we are saying it.8. Pick Your BattlesSometimes you just have to choose your battles at work because, frankly, not everything is worth your time and you really need to have your attention elsewhere like on your actual work.Jacqueline Whitmore, etiquette expert and founder ofThe Protocol School of Palm Beach, told ABC that healthy relationships zusammenge on a couples ability to know which issues are worth fighting over and which ones are worth letting go. The same goes for coworkers. Only tackle issues worth tackle, and come up with a plan of action. Then choose the right time to have that battle, and have it respectfully no yelling or cursing or condescending.9. Dont Get DefensiveThe reason you dont get along with a coworker might not actually have anything to do with you. It might, in fact, have everything to do with the other person, such as their insecurities. Neuroscientist Dr. Berit Brogaardexplains in a blog post on Psychology Today that workplace gossip and bullying may actually be a powerplay or a way of bullying others into submission.10. Dont Let it Ruin Your DayWhile research actually suggests that people who feel sad perform better at detail-oriented tasks and negotiate more effectively than those who are happy, feeling sad or aggravated or easily agitated all the time will ultimately impact your work and, yes, your mental health. So, all in all, be kind to yourself.Youre there to be a professional and to get a job done well. The second you let other people have control over your feelings and, ultimately, your productivity, youre in a toxic environment.--AnnaMarie Houlis is a multimedia journalist and an adventure aficionado with a keen cultural curiosity and an affinity for solo travel. Shes an editor by day and a travel blogger at HerReport.org by night.